Are you walking on eggshells trying to keep your partner from being angry?
Do you please your partner before yourself?
Do you no longer do what you enjoy?
I see this over and over in my marriage counselling sessions and by the time people see me, it’s, do I stay, or do I go?
It’s important to slow it right down and look at the bigger picture.
We can get so caught up in the day-to-day that we forget about the big picture. It’s important to take a step back and remember what you want and who you have been in the past.
- Why did you get married in the first place?
- What are your long-term goals?
- What is your vision, as a couple and as an individual?
Keep your eye on the prize and don’t lose sight of what’s important to you.
When you’re feeling lost in your marriage there will be times when it feels like everything is against you. Times, when you feel like giving up, would be so much easier. That’s when you must dig deep and remember why you said “I do” in the first place. Those core values that guide you – they’ll see you through the tough times.
A place to start is to look at boundaries in relationships and set expectations to keep from disappointing yourself and others. It can be easy to stay quiet when your core values are being tested. Maybe you don’t want to make waves, or you’re afraid of rocking the boat. But if you don’t speak up, you’re not being true to yourself.
So, what can you do?
The 6 Pillars of Change for an Empowered Life
One of the pillars of Power of Change Signature Coaching is the Healthy Boundaries Pillar which is focused on:
- Discovering your core values
- Learning what you will and will not allow
- Knowing what you are willing to tolerate and not willing to tolerate
- Discovering what you truly want in life so you can set and keep boundaries that allow you to create the relationships and life you desire.
Using this Pillar in your relationships, you will be able to:
- Set and keep your boundaries even in the face of another person’s negative reaction
- Have certainty in knowing what is important to you so you can set and keep boundaries
- Always be grounded in your core values, especially when circumstances arise that cause you to question your boundaries
- Integrate the skills of setting and keeping boundaries so you feel safe and respected when you stand up for yourself
Everyone has their own core values in life, but it’s important to remember that these aren’t set in stone. They may develop as you grow older and wiser, but they also change depending on your situation. When faced with hard decisions, you may find yourself wavering between two paths, unable to choose one over the other because you value each outcome differently. This can be frustrating when your instincts tell you to act one way while your mind tells you to act another way—but don’t let this get you down!
Tune in to my Empowered Marriage Podcast to learn more about Healthy Boundaries.
Episode 103 – How to Have Healthy Boundaries in your Marriage – Pillar Two
Find out more about how the 6 pillars can be used to create the relationships and empowered life you have always dreamed of.
Or check out this article from my blog – https://www.powerofchange.com.au/blog/all-couples-must-have-this-for-a-healthy-future/
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