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Why Do You Feel Lonely Even When You’re Together?

You Can Be Together and Still Feel Lonely You can love someone, share a home, sleep beside them every night, raise children together and still feel incredibly lonely. In fact, I think this can be one of the most painful types of loneliness because your person is right there. You might still talk about the […]

Are You Loving Your Partner or Your Wounds?

Podcast 131 Are You Loving Your Partner or Your Wounds?

Do you still love your partner but keep finding yourselves caught in the same arguments, disconnection and frustration? You may argue about communication, money, parenting, housework, intimacy or who is carrying more of the load, but sometimes the real issue isn’t what you’re arguing about. It’s the relationship pattern underneath the argument. In my work […]

Emotional Safety in Relationships: Why We Stop Feeling Safe With Our Partner

Emotional Safety in Relationships: Why We Stop Feeling Safe With Our Partner

Have you ever found yourself thinking: “I just don’t feel safe opening up to my partner anymore.” Maybe you used to talk about everything, your worries, dreams and fears. The things that happened during your day and the things you were struggling with. But somewhere along the way, something changed and you started holding things […]

Should I Stay or Leave My Relationship? How to Know When It's Time to Repair Instead of Walk Away

Should I Stay or Leave My Relationship? How to Know When It’s Time to Repair Instead of Walk Away

“Do I stay… or do I go?” If you’ve ever found yourself lying awake at night asking that question, you’re not alone. It’s one of the most painful questions we can ask ourselves because there rarely seems to be a simple answer. You may still love your partner, but feel emotionally exhausted. You may still […]

Emotionally Disconnected From Your Partner? How Relationship Counselling Can Help

Emotionally Disconnected From Your Partner? How Relationship Counselling Can Help

Do you still love your partner but feel as though you’ve become more like flatmates than a couple? You may share a home, raise children, manage work and family responsibilities and get through everyday life together, but the emotional closeness you once had seems to have disappeared. Perhaps you don’t talk like you used to […]

Why We Become Defensive in Relationships (And How to Change It)

Why We Become Defensive in Relationships (And How to Change It)

Have you ever walked away from an argument with your partner thinking, “That wasn’t how I wanted that conversation to go.” Maybe you found yourself explaining, justifying, shutting down, blaming, changing the subject or walking away. If so, you’re not alone. After nearly 20 years of working with couples, one thing has become incredibly clear […]

Why Do Couples Keep Having the Same Fight? The Hidden Reason Most Relationships Stay Stuck

Why Do Couples Keep Having the Same Fight? The Hidden Reason Most Relationships Stay Stuck

“Why do we keep having the same argument?” It’s one of the most common questions I hear from couples. Disagreement can be  about money, parenting, intimacy, household chores or time together, many couples feel trapped in the same cycle. Different day. Different trigger. Same ending which isn’t pleasant.  What’s so frustrating is the conflict itself […]

Marriage Counselling & Coaching

I Feel Alone in My Marriage: Why You Can Feel Lonely Even When You’re Not Alone

You can be married, share a home, raise children together, and still feel deeply alone. In fact, one of the most painful kinds of loneliness is feeling disconnected while sitting beside the person you love. If you’ve found yourself thinking: “I feel alone in my marriage.” “My partner doesn’t understand me anymore.” “We’re living like […]

Marriage Counselling & Coaching

Why You Keep Having the Same Argument Over and Over Again

Have you ever noticed that the argument changes, but somehow it feels exactly the same? (course you have , and your tired of it) One week it’s about money. The next week it’s about the kids. Then it’s about sex, housework, holidays, or who forgot to do what, different topic. Same feelings. The frustration. The […]