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Anxiety in the suburbs is rampant and I see firsthand how it is affecting the marriages of Australia. It’s putting strain and stress on marriages and not creating room for pleasure and desire. Is anxiety destroying your marriage? Understanding it and healing it will make for a much happier empowered marriage.


Do I have anxiety? 2 Questions to ask yourself


  1. Is my reaction over the top for what’s presenting?
  2. Are you finding it difficult to do things that you use to find easy? E.g. Groceries, riding in an elevator or being in a crowd.


If you answered yes to either of these questions perhaps anxiety is visiting which will be affecting the quality of your marriage?


Anxiety itself is not a medical condition but a natural emotion that is vital for survival when an individual find themselves facing danger.


An anxiety disorder develops when this reaction becomes exaggerated or out-of-proportion to the trigger that causes it.


Anxiety symptoms:


Possible causes include:



You got here due to a stressful event, you got here due to trauma. For example, at five years old, your dog died, and trauma locked in the body. The fight, flight, freeze response and your body has never come back down from that. Your body does not know that that event is over. Your unconscious is keeping you safe and doing a fantastic job.


You then continue in life and you have more stressful and traumatic events and again, the body goes into the fight, flight, freeze response. For some people including myself, I’ve been in the survival way of living most of my life.


The psychological changes in your body when you are in fight, flight or freeze are meant to last for a short period, just till you face the danger and whether you fight, flight or freeze.


We can remain in a state of persistent arousal with limited opportunities to release the built-up tension and we repeatedly react in this way over and over and over again over decades.


When you’re in fight, flight, freeze you feel unsafe. The unconscious is doing a great job of keeping you safe.




For some of you, you may need more expert help, particularly if it’s deep childhood trauma, which for some of us it is. Working with a therapist who uses psychotherapy is the most effective way to move anxiety.





If you are experiencing anxiety and you are married or in a relationship, this will be affecting the quality of your relationship. Is anxiety destroying your marriage? Perhaps its time to do something about it?


Tune into to my Empowered Marriage Podcast to learn more. This week’s podcast is available now and discusses this topic in more depth. Is Anxiety destroying your marriage? – https://www.powerofchange.com.au/empowered-marriage-podcast/