The 6 Pillars of Change for an Empowered Life is proven over and over to create the relationships and empowered life you have always dreamed of.
My unique system is integral to the success of your journey. Finding your voice, and reclaiming your power with a set of tools for you to create your ideal life and the life your wildest thoughts dream of. It all starts with – How to Care for Yourself in your Marriage – Pillar 1.
Pillar One: Care of Yourself
In relationships, it is so easy to focus on everyone else and forget to take care of yourself in the busyness of life. Husband, Wife, Kids, Work, Family, Pets and Friends… It is important to take care of yourself and your needs so that you do not face burnout by depleting yourself too much. Self-Care is what allows you to continue caring for others. At the end of the day, were your needs met?
This Pillar is focused on:
- Helping you discover how to take care of yourself in the face of other people’s needs that pull on you
- Teaching you to say no when you mean no instead of yes to avoid upsetting another person
- Learning about your own needs, possibly for the first time
- Knowing your own needs is important so you can make decisions that are congruent with taking care of yourself and others in a healthy way
Using this Pillar in your relationships, you will be able to:
- Take care of yourself because you will know your needs and how to balance your needs with the needs of others
- You will be able to feel powerful enough to ask for what you need without the fear of rejection
- Take time for your own self-care, making sure your needs are met
- You will know how to take care of your own needs, especially when others won’t, for whatever reason.
One of the main things that hold people back from taking care of themselves is the fear of rejection. They think that if they put themselves first, they will be seen as selfish and will be rejected by others.
However, this could not be further from the truth. When you take care of yourself, you are actually showing how much you care about yourself. This can be very attractive to others and can actually lead to closer relationships.
Moreover, when you are happy and well-cared for, you are in a better position to be there for others. So instead of worrying about rejection, focus on taking care of yourself. It is the best decision you can make for your happiness and well-being.
It can be easy to get caught up in the day-to-day grind and forget to focus on taking care of yourself, especially if you’re married. But it’s important to make time for yourself, even if it’s just a few minutes each day.
Four ways to focus on taking care of yourself in your marriage:
- Schedule some “me” time every day: Dedicate at least 15 minutes each day to doing something that brings you joy, whether it’s reading, going for a walk, taking a yoga class, or anything else that makes you feel good.
- Make self-care a priority: Just as you would schedule a doctor’s appointment or a date night with your spouse, put self-care appointments into your calendar and treat them with the same importance.
- Talk to your spouse about your needs: If you’re feeling overwhelmed or stressed, talk to your spouse about how they can help support you. Whether it’s taking on more household tasks or just lending a listening ear, communication is key to maintaining a healthy relationship.
- Practice self-compassion: Cut yourself some slack and be gentle with yourself. We all make mistakes, and no one is perfect. Remembering this will help you focus on the positive aspects of your life and relationship.
By taking the time to focus on yourself, you can maintain your own well-being while also strengthening your marriage. So don’t be afraid to put yourself first – your spouse will thank you for it!
Tune in to my Empowered Marriage Podcast to learn more. This fortnight’s podcast is available now and discusses topics like this one in more depth.
Podcast 102 – How to Care for Yourself in your Marriage – Pillar 1 – Listen to the podcast here
Check out the full series of articles about the 6 Pillars of Change and discover how they can help you.
Or check out this article from my blog – https://www.powerofchange.com.au/blog/taking-down-time-to-recharge/